Strictly brings ‘glimmer of joy’ again to Annabel Croft after demise of husband
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nnabel Croft mentioned Strictly Come Dancing has distracted her from grief following the demise of her husband this 12 months.
The former British primary tennis participant and broadcaster mentioned she is “still crying every day” after her husband of 36 years Mel Coleman died from most cancers aged 60 – simply 16 weeks after prognosis.
But 57-year-old Croft mentioned being partnered along with her late husband’s favorite Strictly skilled, Johannes Radebe, is offering some solace.
“I find the performing terrifying. I feel physically sick, but the effort involved means your brain doesn’t have room for anything else,” she advised the Daily Mail.
“It’s bringing joy, or at least a glimmer of it, back into my life… Johannes is like an angel who came into my life to alleviate the pain, a little.”
Croft, who has been unable to gather her late husband’s ashes from the crematorium, recalled the day the couple had been advised he had “cancer, and it is everywhere”.
She mentioned: “I just went into total freefall. I was one of those wailing women in the hospital car park.
“Poor Mel was the one who’d been told he was going to die, and he was comforting me.
“Three months later, I was picking up a death certificate and our three children were having to process the fact their dad’s name was on there.”
Croft was the youngest Briton to compete within the Wimbledon Championships for nearly a century on the age of 15 earlier than changing into a junior champion on the event in 1984 on the age of 18.
She met yachtsman Mel when she was 21 and the pair had been requested to participate in a TV present about studying the way to sail.
“It was the first time I’d hung out with people my age. I put normal clothes on — not tennis gear,” she mentioned.
“I went to the pub. For the first time, I didn’t have to think about my forehand or my backhand, or walking out in front of crowds.
“And once I met Mel, I realised I didn’t want to carry on doing that. I think I took strength from who he was. He gave me confidence. He taught me how to… live.”
Croft mentioned her husband was feeling higher in April just a few months after his prognosis so the couple travelled to Portugal on what she calls “the fateful holiday”.
She mentioned: “We think that his colon was perforated on the flight. It can happen when it is in such a weakened state.
“We could see that something was wrong, because his feet became very swollen.
“From that moment, his body was being poisoned.”
Croft mentioned he was “dying in front of us” and the household watched him take his final breath within the hospital which she described as “traumatic”.
Describing Strictly Come Dancing as a sanity-saver, she mentioned: “When I got the offer I thought, actually, what else am I going to be doing — coming home at 4pm to a dark, empty house, a house Mel built, in the winter?
“Also, I’m an athlete. The idea of using my body to try to alleviate something — the pain, I guess — was appealing.
“…Glitterball or no glitterball, I will have had a wonderful and joyful experience.
“I’m just getting through every day. If this last year has taught me anything it is this: don’t focus on the future — concentrate on today.”