Bereaved father tells MPs to cease ‘ignoring’ assisted dying debate

Aug 30, 2023 at 9:24 PM
Bereaved father tells MPs to cease ‘ignoring’ assisted dying debate

A bereaved father whose spouse died of suffocation after she declined her ventilator has urged ministers to cease “ignoring” the rising debate round assisted dying.

Helen Catmur was “trapped in her own body” and terminally in poor health as a result of motor neurone illness. Her husband of 19 years, James, watched her deteriorate over nearly 18 months till she may solely transfer her eyes and one finger.

One day, whereas plugging within the iPad she used to speak, he discovered she had been researching Dignitas. But Helen was too unwell to journey from their house in St Neots, Cambs, to Switzerland.

She later advised a hospital physician through the iPad: “I want to die.” In November 2016, Helen determined to hasten her dying in the one means she may – by refusing the ventilator she had grow to be reliant on to breathe.

She was given medication to cease her panicking as she slowly suffocated, dying three days later aged 57. James, 62, recalled: “I had been warned that her breathing would change in pace.

“I sat beside her and heard her breathing change, and she died. In the end you actually die of carbon dioxide poisoning, which causes your body to in essence shut down because you aren’t getting the oxygen.”

The couple’s youngsters, Alasdair, 22, and Iona, 21, have been then solely teenagers. James mentioned the restricted choices out there to Helen have been “not good enough in this modern age”. He added: “Watching the woman I loved being trapped in her own body was horrible for me and the children.”

The Daily Express Give Us Our Last Rights marketing campaign seeks a change within the regulation to permit terminally in poor health adults who’re of sound thoughts, with lower than six months to stay, to request medical help to finish their lives.

Assisting a suicide is illegitimate in England and people convicted withstand 14 years in jail. Helen was a medical negligence lawyer and saved her Dignitas analysis secret so her household couldn’t be accused of helping her if she selected that path.

James, a threat administration professional, has lived with slow-progressing a number of sclerosis for 40 years. He struggles to stroll greater than 20 yards and makes use of a wheelchair. After witnessing his spouse’s struggling he has registered with Dignitas.

James mentioned: “It is partly peace of mind. I don’t want to have to commit suicide, I don’t want to leave my children to find me one day.

“That’s not to say I will go to Dignitas, it just means that should things get to a stage where I don’t want to go on, and I can get myself on a plane to Zurich, then I can go.”

MS is just not thought of a terminal sickness however folks with MS can attain a terminal stage, though that is laborious to outline.

James desires the Government to interact with the rising debate. He mentioned: “It’s not going to go away – this is a movement that’s spreading around the world, and England and Wales are slowly and steadily being left behind.

“The beauty of any decent system is you don’t have to use it if you don’t want to.”

Davina Hehir, of campaigners Dignity in Dying, mentioned folks would nonetheless journey overseas for assisted dying till a protected system was launched.

She added that others “face a painful death at home” or “take matters into their own hands”.